Choosing Your Wedding Party:
The first and most important thing to keep in mind is, who holds a special place in your heart and who do you want standing beside you and supporting you on the most special day of your life? You want to choose a wedding party that is not only friends with you, but someone who is supportive of your future marriage. I am going to go over a few don't when it comes to choosing your wedding party. Surprisingly, I have spoken to some brides(and grooms) who have used these reasons for picking their wedding party.
DON'T - choose your wedding party based on even numbers. If one of you has more people that they want to include on their side, that doesn't mean the other needs to put people on their side just to make things even. If this person wasn't so near and dear to the bride and groom to want them in your wedding party in the first place, the chances are the friendship isn't that strong and you may be looking at your wedding photos down the line thinking "whatever happened to so-and-so?".
DON'T - choose your wedding party based on looks. There are some brides that want nothing than the best looking wedding party, or some brides who choose girls who they feel aren't so pretty just so they feel better standing next to them in pictures. This is all around just the worst thing I've heard when it comes to brides choosing their wedding party.
DON'T - feel obligated to put family members in your party if you aren't that close with them. If you are asking them to be in your wedding party because you feel obligated, they are most likely only saying yes because they feel obligated. Because of that, they may not be excited to be involved in all the wedding party activities and you might end up with some resentment forming.
*Note* If, for exaple, you have a bride who is very close to her brother and would like him to be a part of her wedding party, however the groom would like to keep his groomsmen at just his close friends, there is no reason why the bride's brother can't stand up for the bride as a "man of honour" or "bridesman".
After Choosing your Wedding Party:
Be creative. Don't ask your loved ones to stand beside you on your special day by sending them a text message, or worse, a Facebook message. At the very least, ask them in person, or on the telephone.
You can also try being creative. Send them a cute little card and write down all of the reasons you love them, and what them being a part of your special day means to you. You could bake them special "will you be my bridesmaid" cookies, or make them a funny "surviving being a bridesmaid" kit.
If all or most of your wedding party is local, consider throwing a get-to-know-you bash and invite all of your wedding party and their significant others. There will be lots of wedding functions coming up and its always easier when the wedding party know each other and their significant others. This way, the significant others will not feel left out and in the dark, and will have more people to talk to at events while the wedding party is busy doing wedding party things.
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